Secret One: It's The Content Not the Timing
Guys obsess a lot over when they should ask a girl out after getting her phone number. While not appearing too desperate is important what is far more important is what message you send to her rather than the timing. If you send out a good text message then you could get her phone number in the morning and have her out on a date by the evening. If you send a bad message it doesn't matter if you observe "the three day rule or not"
Secret Two: Don't Ask Her Out on a Date
This might seem like a really strange thing to say. After all surely the entire point of getting her phone number is to get her out on a date. This is in fact only half true. You do want to get her out of her house and spending time with you. What you don't want to be doing is asking her out on a date. The distinction is as follows. When you ask a girl out on a date you are asking her ahead of time if you she would like to do something specific thing at a specific date and time. This might be to go to a movie with you, have dinner or go to a concert. The big problem with this approach is that she can easily reject you and if she does you won't be easily able to save the situation.
The alternative is to not preplan but next time you are doing something anyway invite her along. For example next time you are getting a coffee you shoot her a text telling her you are going to Starbucks and ask her if she would like to meet up, or next time you are going to see your friends band play you ask if she would like to come along and that you can put her name on the door. The great thing about this approach is if she says no it isn't a big problem. You didn't really ask her out so you can keep trying. Often you will find that while she won't go out with you that night if you get her on the right night you will be successful.
Secret Three: Keep It Informal
You don't want to be too formal with your texts. If you start out trying to be too formal such as telling her how much you like her or that you hope she had a good evening you are forcing her too choose whether she wants you to be her boyfriend or not. At the start of a relationship when she is not even comfortable with you yet there is a good chance she will reject you. Instead keep it fun and simple and talk to her like you already know her well.
Secret Four: Make a Connection
When we talk to our friends and family we don't introduce ourselves first or use other formalities. We start in the middle of an ongoing conversation. This is the best approach to use when texting a girl as well. Start by refereeing to something that happened last time you saw her. This helps to overcome the stranger problem that you don't really know each other. Instead it emphasizes your shared history no matter how short that is.
Secret Five: Don't Procrastinate
While you don't want to be asking her out on formal dates you shouldn't procrastinate either. The longer you spend texting her without getting her out on a date the less likely the text conversation will turn into a real relationship. Come up with something for the two of you to today as soon as possible after getting her phone number.
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