Tuesday 30 December 2014

0 Comedy Of Errors Part I

Comedy Of Errors Part I
An item in the local newspaper caught my attention and I read with amusement the news of 35 kilograms of sweets being distributed among the poor and needy by a certain Pappu Sardar to celebrate the 35th birthday of Madhuri Dikshit. He was an ardent fan of the actress and it was his way of announcing his affection for her. In a way I was glad that he opted to feed the poor instead of hosting a party for his affluent friends. Being drawn to actors and actresses and carrying one's fancy to abnormal levels is nothing new. I had a friend in college who almost committed suicide when a famous actor, for whom she nursed a secret crush, announced his decision to marry his childhood sweetheart. My paternal grandmother who was otherwise a very religious woman found information about screen personalities very interesting. She knew details of their umpteen marriages and affairs, their shooting schedules as well as their personal likes and dislikes. She had no favorites but was generally in awe of their lifestyle. Upon her death she had bequeathed to her grand children the contents of a steel trunk that contained along with gold jewelry and silverware 2 signed photographs of the Hindi film actress Suraiyya, which made us recall the events that led to their acquisition.

Way back in the early sixties we happened to stay in Suraiyya Mansion, which as the name implies belonged to Suraiyya the then famous actress and the undisputed queen of Hindi films. A part of the building happened to be leased out to the army and my father being a doctor in the Army Medical Corps was allotted a flat in the Mansion. My mother who was then in her early thirties had her hands full with three school going children and it hardly mattered to her whether the apartment belonged to Suraiyya or anyone else. But not so my grand mother who had all the time in the world. She was so excited to be sharing the roof with a renowned actress that she started offering special prayers to the gods to enable my father's posting in Bombay to last long enough for all our relatives to be able to pay us a visit and be blessed with at least a passing glimpse of the lady. She wrote to as many of them as possible and urged them plan a trip to Bombay without delay. " Vishu may get transfer orders anytime." She'd conclude " so don't blame me if you don't get to meet her. I'm doing my best. The rest is up to you." Luckily those were days when telephones were considered a luxury and we did not have one. If my grand mother had access to this modern communicating tool she would have given an hourly account of Surayya's activities to any one who was willing to listen.

My grand mother was an orthodox south Indian Brahmin lady who followed all the rules applicable to a widow's existence in keeping with our community's tradition. She had shaved off her long luxuriant hair after my grandfather's death and ate only one meal a day. Not that she'd starve the rest of the day. She would have for her evening meal items manufactured in God's own factory viz. at least four varieties of the season's fruits, a whole lot of dry fruits and a liter of cow's milk simmered till it attained a pinkish hue and flavored with cardamoms and kesar along with some sweet dish. How much we'd long to be able to exchange our supper consisting of dal, sabzi and roti for her evening meal but my mother would hear none of it.

Coming back to my grand mother's growing interest in Suraiyya there was a small problem. My grand mother would have loved to talk to her but she knew no Hindi and Suraiyya hardly knew Tamil or Telgu the two languages that my grandmother was proficient in. Therefore chances of getting acquainted with the actress were limited. My grandmother was not the one to be put down so easily. She first coaxed my mother to act as her interpreter but my mother politely refused claiming to be busy with her housework. She tried calling us but we being in our pre - teens and too busy playing were never available. Finally she decided to try on her own.

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0 Why The Secret Is Bad Hypnosis And What To Do Instead That Will Work Part 1

Why The Secret Is Bad Hypnosis And What To Do Instead That Will Work Part 1
To begin with, I have seen the movie, but I have never read the book The Secret. So the basis for my thinking that The Secret is promoting bad hypnosis is based on the movie, and on my observations of my friends who have tried to put the secret of The Secret into action.

I recently ran across a report of current research that shows that visualizing the end result is much less effective than using a different method of visualization. And, the reasons that the small difference between the two methods that makes all the difference in a successful outcome will become clear in my next blog post, Part 2 of "Why The Secret is Bad Hypnosis, and What to Do Instead That Will Work".

The Secret emphasizes that just intensely visualizing oneself as already have one's desires will somehow make them appear. One man in the movie visualized a house in great detail for a while, and then some years later he realizes that he has bought the house that he had visualized, and was actually living in it. That story is offered as proof that the techniques of The Secret work.

The man was said to have "manifested" the house for himself according to the narrators of the movie. When people use the word "manifested" I get the impression that they mean that the desired item magically appeared out of thin air because someone visualized it intensely and clearly for a few minutes or hours.

Of course, what we do not find out from the movie is whether the "perfect house" that the man visualized was built before or after he visualized it. If it was built before, we have to conclude that "manifesting" is not subject to the normal restrictions of time and space. Or, perhaps the man experiences the paranormal phenomena called remote viewing, and intensely visualized an existing house that he had never physically seen.

It is certainly no surprise that someone would buy a house that was similar to one that he or she had passionately visualized some years before. In the movie the man claimed that he had no conscious awareness of how similar the house that he had visualized years earlier was to the one he bought until some months or even years after he had been living it.

Perhaps the more plausible explanation is that the man was unconsciously attracted to a house that was similar to the one that he had visualized. There is no way of telling.

Perhaps I am misinterpreting the message of The Secret. However, I am sure that others have bought the "visualize it and it will happen" line completely. One of my more metaphysically inclined friends, let's call her Frannie, told me that she was frustrated with a woman at her work who was being unfriendly. Frannie, then let me know that she didn't understand why the woman was not treating her better. After all, Franny had been using The Secret's visualizations to make her coworker be more pleasant!

Another friend told me that she had "manifested" the parking space for us in the full parking lot in front of the bookstore that we went to by visualizing it for a few minutes before we arrived. And, she was serious.

So, The Secret seems to hypnotize people into believing that they can "manifest" whatever they visualize through mind power alone. What makes it bad hypnosis, is that it creates a false belief that tends to be immune to critical thinking. According to The Secret if the person visualizes and does not get their desired results, it is simply because that they did not visualize long enough, with enough desire, or enough clarity. And, that is bad hypnosis.

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Monday 29 December 2014

0 Online Dating Service Free

Online Dating Service Free

SIGNS THAT A LEO MAN LIKES YOU

The Leo man is perhaps the most romantic star sign of the western zodiac. He just loves the thrill of it all and learns how to romance a woman from slushy books and movies that many guys would be too embarrassed to admit to reading or watching. Look at it this way, he is the style of guy who would love to be out kissing you on a windswept moor in England. Lets's take a look at the signs that a Leo man likes you or even loves you.

Right at the start he's very forward and not at all embarrased when it comes to letting you know that he loves you and won't avoid dramatic gestures of adoration and passion. He'll make sure that almost every day you have a delivery of roses and all kinds of other treats, he's letting you know that you're always on his mind and that he wants to be with you forever.

Don't be shocked to hear music outside your window in the middle of the night. It'll be him singing you a song about love and about how special you are to him. It's the kind of thing that you've seen in the movies, but it's happening to you right outside of your bedroom window.

Don't be surprised if you receive large amounts of poetry, either his favourite poems and quotes or something that he has written himself to express how amazing he thinks you are. He's not embarrased in the slightest about doing this, even though his poetry might not be the finest you've ever read (it could be totally awful, but in a cute way). These kind of romantic gestures could make a woman run and hide and it depends if you appreciate this type of thing or start to get concerned that you might have a crazy stalker. The choice is yours.

When he has fallen in love with you he'll be desperate to spend all of his time with you and and expect that you are going to want to do the same with him. If you like your own space and enjoy spending some time alone then this could cause some problems. Sometimes his need to be with you so much can feel rather suffocating. But if you share his overwhelming need to spend time together then it's going to turn out great for both of you.

Sometimes he'll seem to be very controlling and jealous, he might even want you to stop seeing your friends. If any of your friends are guys then the Leo man is is not going to cope with this well at all. He'll insist that you cut off contact with them, because he expects you to think that he is all you need. Always.

Despite this, as soon as the Leo man is sure he's in love with you then he's yours forever. A marriage proposal is pretty much guaranteed sooner than you might think. He won't have eyes for any other girl and is very faithful. If you can tolerate his his attacks of jealously and his desperate need to be with you so much then it could turn out to be almost perfect romance, like like something out of one of those romantic movies that seem to be nothing more than a pipe dream.

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Sunday 28 December 2014

0 Why Advertising Sucks

Why Advertising Sucks
Two ads, currently running, demonstrate why Advertising today is just miserable, and a symptom of a creative class in terminal decline. One pushes agendas and messages the audience knows is just not true, and the other is determined to push hipness and edginess to an audience supremely uninterested, and indeed hostile, to those particular attributes.First, the Circuit City Back to School Ad, seen here:Next, the Reebok and NFL Commercial, seen here:The Circuit City Ad, in case you don't want to watch it (I don't blame you either), opens with a nerdy High School age Circuit City salesman dreaming and drooling over Rihanna. He's interrupted in his reverie by a cute High School girl shopping for a computer, with her parents, who semi-flirts with him. It ends, jarringly, with the low price and features of the computer on sale.This ad is a disaster. It pushes the agenda of ad agencies that seem to think that whites and blacks closely associate with each other, like the tedious ads where the dorky, nerdy white guy desperately seeks the tough masculine black guy's approval. This ad pushes two things the audience knows are not true.First, nerdy white High School guys don't care for or even know about the existence or R&B singer Rihanna. Female singers who interest those guys are obscure, invariably waifish, girlish, "sensitive" singers in foreign or College Radio bands. They are invariably white and present a shy, "innocent" image.Second, the Ad is likely to provoke negative reactions by men. The patronizing attitude towards the nerdy guy is palpable, and it shows the lack of understanding by a largely female-oriented advertising group, used to lazy advertising oriented to women by showing men as clueless idiots. It's true, advertisers lost the ability to sell to men. For too long, advertisers focused almost exclusively on women, and lost any ability to sell things without gratuitous insults towards men to appeal to women. You've seen the Home Depot, or other ads depicting the clueless "Dad" with the Mom and kids rolling their eyes.It's Marketing 101 that women make most household purchasing decisions. Oddly, for hipster-oriented marketing and advertising people, one would think that current demographic realities would intrude on that myth, since they'd observe the truth enough in their own lives. Single mothers imply men outside that household, on their own. Presumably, buying goods and services. Later marriages and more divorces mean men live alone longer, as presumably, consumers and buying decision makers and not in suspended animation. While it is probably still true that men in two-parent households don't do much of the shopping, that hardly describes the vast majority of the population. Advertisers simply lost the ability to sell to men. That might have been sustainable in a good economy, not in a recession. Next time you're watching TV, look at the ads. You'll probably only see the loathesome Viagra ads and the Football-related ads directed towards men. Nearly everything else will be directed mainly towards women consumers. Because it's "cool." Or simply lazy force of habit.This ad by Apple Computer featuring Feist, is what nerdy white guys like:Now, the disappearance of the shared Black-White culture of popular music may be mourned. Perhaps there should be attempts to revive it. But depicting a nerdy white guy enthralled by Rihanna, when everyone knows that nerdy white guys don't even know she exists, is just dumb. Particularly if your goal is to sell the idea of shopping at Circuit City for a computer. You've just told one lie. A lie everyone knows is a lie. To what end, what advantage?Certainly, ads far over-represent demographic reality of the racial makeup of the United States. Blacks make up 13% of the population, yet appear about half the time humans in ads are shown. Blacks and whites are shown as friends/acquaintances, often with a nerdy white guy desperately seeking a "cool" black guy's approval. Yet survey after survey confirms, that blacks and whites rarely socialize and are self-segregated. A recent Wall Street Journal article noted that white and black Obama College-age volunteers did not socialize after rallies, and organized in segregated groups, all black or all white. This reflects social reality: blacks and whites don't (outside of Rap and some sports) share many interests and interact socially. Why then insist in Ads in saying the opposite?That's the mark of an insular, removed, and ultimately declining creative class.But there's more lies to come. A cute girl flirts with a nerdy guy? In what universe, exactly? That again is another lie. One everyone, young and old, knows is a lie. Why tell that lie? Again, it's because the ad creators are simply removed from direct, social experience, that would tell them cute girls only flirt with "hot" guys, none of whom work at Circuit City. Or shop there, for that matter.Ask yourself these questions: Is the ad effective in reaching a particular demographic about the relative advantage in shopping at Circuit City for a new computer? Is the Ad even trustworthy? Or does it tell the viewers things they know are false, and thus undermine the entire message (of shopping at Circuit City for a new computer)? Are nerdy guys (there's a lot of them) likely to resent this commercial?As far as I can tell, the ad means to invoke a mild contempt for the young men (he's foolish, daydreaming, geeky, the girl leads him around) to mildly appeal to women and nothing more. I don't seem much else as the ad's objective. How did this ad get approved? Credentials I suppose. The ad's creator and agency no doubt have impressive credentials, client lists, etc. Advertisers reflexively make men and boys into fools thinking it's an easy appeal to women. Women with sons or husbands or brothers or fathers oddly enough resent them being made into fools. Yet that trend continues.Too many in our creative class are just resting on their credentials and past laurels. It's why nearly everything they create has declined in quality over the last fifteen years. There is little new blood, very few new and hungry creative people, and a lot of message pushing.Sometimes it's just dang stupid! Consider the Reebok "Migrate" commercial. Now, quick, what is the commercial selling? Achy, emotional female folk singers? NFL players? Nope. Believe it or not, the ad is supposed to sell Reebok's new performance wicking T-shirt. Designed to wick the sweat away during hard work outs. It's like the mutant spawn of a Calvin Klein perfume ad mixed with Direct-TV ads featuring Peyton Manning touting the NFL package.Would you have any idea that was the purpose of the Ad? No of course not. Because the ad is not about selling things. It's about how cool and hip the ad's creators really are. Compared to just dumb proletariat you, of course. And everyone else in the intended audience.There's the various NFL players, the overly-breathy voice of Vashti Bunyan, an obscure 1960's folk singer reputed to be a descendant of "Pilgrim's Progress" author John Bunyan. The "hip" idea of NFL players "migrating" like geese, in V-formation, to football stadiums. That's the ad. It ends with the Giants in V-formation in the parking lot of the Meadowlands stadium, with a quick flash of the wording for the T shirt.Now, how many NFL fans sit around thinking, dang, I need to be really cool and hip. Let's put on some achingly hip folk tunes! While NFL fans like watching their favorite players, the ad is confusing and silly, and doesn't feature any... football. It's made, obviously, by people who don't know or like the NFL. Or understand their fans. The contempt and ignorance is obvious and is likely to be returned with interest by the NFL audience watching the commercial. Again, advertisers don't understand the largely male NFL audience. Who are not, to put it mildly, Madison Avenue hipsters. The reflexive dismissal of the male consumer by advertiser is likely to hurt them as the economy hits bad times and sponsors need to reach male consumers.You can tell a lot about how healthy an industry or trade group is, by the attention to detail and craftsmanship. These two commercials, in miniature, present an advertising industry that can't even get the basics right, and have no commitment to quality. One commercial tells outright social lies, in service of mild contempt for the geeky young man. The other attempts to target NFL fans by not showing any... football. Which is the reason for the NFL in the first place.Advertising may not be the pinnacle for modern creative achievement, but it's not difficult either. That ad creators cannot even get the basics right, bodes ill for creative people in more demanding endeavors: film, music, television, and literature.

Wednesday 24 December 2014

0 Break Up Busting 101 How Appearance Affects Attraction

Break Up Busting 101 How Appearance Affects Attraction
It's a busy day! Lots of exciting stuff happening everywhere, lots of phone calls, some great testimonials and compliments in the e-mail today - I live for these kinds of days. They're the kind of day that I can reach the end of feeling not just productive, but downright heroic.

Speaking of which, I caught an article in the Wall Street Journal a few days ago that I just can't get out of my head. It's relevance and timeliness are as perfect as it's message, that being that women are turned on by men who act and look like men, not boys (slackers), wusses (needy little whiners who can't survive without someone to cook and clean for them), girlfriends (metrosexuals who are fun to shop with and fun to be seen with on a date as a trophy but who, without alpha male behavior, are treated like girlfriends and kept around to network, share, and dramatize with instead of having an intimate male-female relationship), etc.

To help you get a mental picture of what women want and the kind of images they respond both positively and negatively to, I'm going to post that article in it's entirety before we discuss it.

A Lady's Lament


Where have all

the Hollywood hunks gone?

BY KIMBERLEY A. STRASSEL

Friday, March 3, 2006 12:01 a.m. EST

This year I plan to conduct my own Academy Awards. And in my newly created category of "Best Red-Blooded Male," I regret to say that I can offer up only one nominee: King Kong.

Where have all the tough guys gone? Really, it's enough to make you cry--that is, if all our leading men weren't already doing it for me. From its earliest days Hollywood has had a glorious tradition of punch-throwing, gun-toting, testosterone-oozing leading men, and the world has loved every one of them. James Cagney, Humphrey Bogart, Gary Cooper, John Wayne, Lee Marvin, Charles Bronson, Steve McQueen, Sly Stallone, Mel Gibson, these were men. Some were strong and silent, some artisans of broken noses and busted rib cages, some villains, some heroes. But there was no doubt that they had a reason to walk with bowed legs.

And today? These marvelous males have given way to a new generation of Hollywood consumptives, metrosexuals if you will, the most solid thing about whom are their perky cheekbones. Jude Law, Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom, Leo DiCaprio, Adrien Brody, Ashton (Ashton!) Kutcher. I make it a general rule to withhold my regard from any man I could bench-press on a feeble day, much less those who've never had need of a razor. If producers are wondering why box-office sales keep falling, they might consider that America wants something more from its men than pouty lips and foot-long eyelashes.

Early cinema specialized in the supermasculine sort, providers and achievers and gangsters who were always in control. They were cool ("Here's looking at you, kid"), daring ("Made it, Ma! Top of the

world!"
) and cocky ("Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn"). Some were tough through their moral rectitude; think Jimmy Stewart.

Others, like Cary Grant, made up for a lack of outright macho with wit, class and unbelievable suits.

The 1950s brought about yet a new type of tough guy, heroes who specialized in fighting wars, protecting the innocent and getting the job done. They weren't "hunks" in today's sense of that word, but they didn't need to be. They had such presence that they didn't even need to speak. James Coburn had precisely 11 lines in "The Magnificent Seven," including such masterpieces as "You lost" and "Three." But if ever a Western has produced a tougher, more deadly gun-slinger and knife-hucker than "Britt," I'd like to know. By the 1960s and '70s, these tough guys had also discovered the value of props. Clint had his.44 Magnum. Steve had his Mustang GT 390. Sean had his martini.

Starting about 1980, tough guys changed again. This was the beefcake era, and the guys were maniacs. Arnold Schwarzenegger terminated everything in sight. As near as I can figure, Mel Gibson, via "Braveheart" and "The Patriot," single-handedly killed off the entire English population. Sylvester Stallone sealed his career with characters named "Rocky, Rambo" and "Cobra," for goodness' sake. None of this was highbrow film, but there was something wonderful about the brute strength. Even women came to appreciate the, ahem, upside to testosterone-flicks. I know girls who will admit that they own "Top Gun" for the sole purpose of watching the volleyball scene over and over.

Sadly, reruns are about all we babe-loving women have these days.

The new Hollywood man isn't noble or daring or silent or even beefy. He emotes. He is fragile and flawed. He is a 40-year-old virgin. He is a hobbit. Take a look at the guys who are up for Oscar nominations, and let's go immediately to the elephant in the room. Three -- count 'em, three -- are there for playing men who bat for the other team. Yes, yes, I loved both "Brokeback Mountain" and "Capote," but that's not the point.

Some of the older toughies are still knocking around, but it's getting to be a bit of a geriatric ward. Stallone will be 60 this summer. Even Denzel Washington is past 50. Eastwood is clocking in at 76 and has (wisely) taken to playing senior citizens. My hat goes off to Bruce Willis, who continues to churn out reliable hard-man flicks, even if the tank tops are now gone. As for the younger generation, I find myself grateful to Matt Damon, who had the courage to make two old-fashioned spy thrillers (as Jason Bourne), the first of which revitalized the concept of a car chase.

Oh, and Vin Diesel rocks.

Where is the next generation of tough guys? They're out there. They just happen to go by the names Michelle Yeoh and Angelina Jolie.

These are our new bad boys: cool, clever and deadly with a six-foot samurai sword. Still, call me a traditionalist; I like my heroes with facial hair, a deep voice and bulging biceps. Which is why, when it comes to this year's nominees for truly manly men, I'm sticking with the ape.

"MS. STRASSEL IS A MEMBER OF THE WALL STREET JOURNAL'S EDITORIAL BOARD."

What does this tell you? Is the tone of boredom and frustration in this woman's writing not painfully obvious to you? And it's no secret that most men take their cues from the silver screen on how to dress, talk, and act. I'm not going to say or think that Hollywood and the media are behind some huge conspiracy to wussify the entire male gender as part of some liberal or gay pride political sentiment like some of the conspiracy theorists. I don't know, and frankly don't care. What's important isn't the reason that it's happening, it's the FACT that it's happening, and the outcome.

Men are looking less like Gary Cooper, Humphrey Bogart, and John Wayne and more like Hugh Grant every day, and if you know that women tolerate boredom and frustration even less than men do, that it is indeed torturous to them, you know that this is contributing to today's divorce statistics.

A woman who is bored and frustrated will try to tell you she's bored and frustrated, but it won't come across in language you can understand if you are in the vast majority of men. Questions like, "Are you wearing that tonight?" that sound to us like a general query are actually statements that read like, "Please don't embarrass me to death by wearing that out tonight!" (Consequently, we're going to break away from attraction for a couple of days and talk about communications in our next editions!) In the end, not knowing that we don't interpret what they say to mean what they want us to understand, they think that we are insensitive and don't care that we are embarrassing them, ignoring them, etc., and frustration is added to their boredom. Would you care to guess what happens next?

"Well, if he's going to just ignore me after I told him what I need, I'll just find somebody who won't ignore me!"

It might be an affair, or it might be "the papers," but either way, you're now in deep manure. Is this ringing any bells? It should be, because this is the root of virtually all divorce that occurs between partners that were well-matched in the beginning. She gets bored, gets frustrated, disengages, he gets bored, and then it's pretty much a race to see who steps out or wants permanently out first.

This doesn't have to happen, and if it's already started, it doesn't have to continue to spiral out-of-control until your relationship ends in a bitter war. What you need to know to negotiate these obstacles and get your relationship back on track quickly - and a whole lot more - is included in "How to Be Attractive to the Woman You Love." Men who have read it have pulled their marriage out of the jaws of the divorce monster in as little as a week; others have found that they've spent many years in a bad marriage that made them unhappy and made with confidence the decision to cooperate with their soon-to-be-ex spouse to correct the mistake they had made years ago and move on to have a happy life.

Join them! There's not one thing in the world that sitting around worrying is going to accomplish for you, except stressing you out, making you old, and letting the problems get worse. Take action now while it's still possible to have some influence on the outcome. Go to http://www.makingherhappy.com and get your copy of this truly amazing book, find out where you stand, make a decision about where you are going, and then use the rest of the book to get there, just like all those who came before you. Life's too short as it is; don't waste any more of it worrying - ACT! And do it now.

In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!

David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham

0 Be Proud Of Your Womanhood

Be Proud Of Your Womanhood
A Woman Is A Strong And Powerful Person. She Is Thoughtful, Intuitive, Resourceful, Sensitive, And Creative. When A Woman Succeeds In Bringing All These Beautiful Qualities Together, She Feels Confident, Alive, Energetic, Assertive And Empowered. This Is All What Womanhood Are About. You Are Woman!

But, a woman is also made up of more than her physical body. She is a highly developed spiritual, emotional and mental qualities and she experiences every moment of her life with her MIND, BODY, SPIRIT AND EMOTIONS:

Mind: Observe Your Beautiful, Positive Thoughts

Body: Observe You're Your Beautiful Physical Appearance

Spirit: Be Aware Of Your Spiritual Well-being

Emotions: Acknowledge Your Inner, Womanly Feelings

Every event in your live is responded to by your mind, body, spirit and emotions. Remember the times in your life when your self-esteem was on a high? Your energy was flowing freely, your mind was thinking positively, you were in touch with your own feelings, you acted assertively and you were aware of your own spirituality.But, any high self-esteem can change in the wink of an eye into a very low-self-esteem. One minute you are balanced, centred, in control of everything, feeling good about yourself and life! Then down you go, feeling worthless, useless and uncomfortable with yourself. Your energies are out of balance. Whenever you feel worthless, you are allowing a negative pattern to run your life. A negative pattern is something which creates a low self-esteem by blocking your energy which results in you not feeling balanced and in control. You can change all the patterns that do not work for you into positive patterns which will support and empower you. But, then you must first become aware of yourself - of your mind, body, spirit and emotions. Self-awareness is the key to self-change and is the mother of self-esteem - self-awareness creates self-esteem. Building self-esteem is a very personal issue which involves the overcoming of individual obstacles hindering you to believe in yourself. All this can be done, not spite of being a woman, but because of being a woman!You are woman, become self-aware, and change your critical negative patterns for others which will offer support and self-esteem. Embrace your power of being a woman by learning to trust yourself. Learn to develop and balance your female energies so that your body, spirit, mind and emotions work in harmony with each other.

You Are Woman!


Tuesday 16 December 2014

0 Arabic Chat Room

Arabic Chat Room
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Thursday 11 December 2014

0 From Men To Women Dating Tips You Can Trust

From Men To Women Dating Tips You Can Trust
Dating is the next best move when it comes to having a relationship. Men think that dating is the easiest approach since it's their nature to take the first move in getting to know women. Although women nowadays have the liberty also to make moves. But men have the strongest views when it comes to dating. Women do not need to overdo their actions just to please men. Men most likely want women to be their own selves than pretending to be someone. During the first date, men tend to be observant, from women's hairstyle to outfits and fingernails. The first impression, although it literally does not last, is the initial step in getting to know the personality of a person. Women must show an effort to make the most out of their looks, from clothes to make up. Men are easily impressed if they know that their date is making an effort to show something. Attractive women are more likely to draw more attention from men and ends up having the next series of date. Although physical attraction does not last, it's a good start to draw someone on your side. Men like women to be less shy but not too confident. Women who portray confidence over men, shun away their dates. Men can't be men if they can't manoeuvre the date. They want to show their masculinity by showing women that they have the control of the action. And women, although intellectually wise and independent must be submissive on their first date. But it does not mean that they can't share their views and opinions over issues during conversation, because men are more impressed in knowing that their dates can speak for themselves. Read between actions. And because men are observant, they watch their dates every action. Men can be bold enough to show their attraction to women if women have initiated the move. If a woman is physically attractive to men and probably felt the man's attraction as well, it's not bad to initiate the flirtation. A little flirtation like toying your hair while listening to your man talk can be a good start. But do not overdo the flirtation because it turns the men off. Remember that men want to manoeuvre the date. Making the next move for a relationship after the date is a man's work. But women have the liberty to take actions as well if they think that it's a mutual feeling and feels that men have hesitations. But women can't be daring enough as to mention about the future because men have a little problem when it comes to commitment. But it's still best to let the men do the initial actions after the first date. About the Author Angela Selfridge is a relationship expert in the UK and offers advice and opinions on love and online dating as well as tips. For information on relationships, dating advice and tips particularly concerning dating in Singapore please visit Lovestruck who are a professional dating site and also offer speed dating.

Tuesday 9 December 2014

0 Ads 55 Happy Couples And Their Booze

Ads 55 Happy Couples And Their Booze
You don't exercise to work on Madison Drain to be familiar with that an alcohol point basic never assurance a guy intake lone. That has the influence to just look sad. Provable, it's credibly leader graphic, but promotion isn't about propriety - it's about heaven (i.e. smear).If conceivably, you do feel the need to show a guy lone with his pitcher, he better damn well look studly and strident - as if, any marked, a mass of nubile women will enter the picture throwing themselves at his feet. But that's a competition exploit to take out off. The safe means is to exercise the guy flanked by a chick(s). Erstwhile options: (1) a solitary sexy female beckoning you to exercise a drink or (2) no people at all - just the booze. In our time, in spite of that, we're just lookin' at the male+female venture. Consumption.Entrancing. Silent, questions still need answers. Is it right to boodle with your socks on? Is it right to boodle on the first date? Is it right to boodle by yourself? Is it right to boodle from behind? Probing minds want to be familiar with.In the function of I first saw this, I meditation "boot ad". But no. Not a boot ad.Righteous what you need for a carefree arrange of tennis - a cooler full of rum! Entrancing dynamic going on more or less. I think the authenticate translates to "Would you exercise a drink with me?"In the role of about the chick with the newspaper? Chopped liver?It's just like a drying out, except without the convulsions and resultant coma!For leader boozing men and the women that love them, see the Booze Dudes rostrum.

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Monday 1 December 2014

0 Autos

Autos
From an item by Peter Ling on 'sex and the automobile in 39(11) "History Today" (2012) -

By combining mobility and privacy, the automobile offered young Americans in the 1920s a 'getaway' vehicle from parental supervision. Consequently, students of American courtship attributed the rise of dating to the automobile's arrival. Dr Evelyn Duvall in a 1956 textbook for teenagers, for instance, declared simply that the car had changed courtship.To understand the automobile's contribution to this change, however, one should first clarify the nature of earlier courtship practices. The convention of calling was not universal practice in late nineteenth-century America. It was a bourgeois custom based on the concerns and capabilities of the middle classes. As a courtship ritual, calling involved three of the pillars of bourgeois life: the family, respectability, and in particular, privacy. The focal point of calling was gaining admittance into the private family sphere of the home which was the central expression of bourgeois status. Although privacy itself had only become a realistic possibility in the eighteenth century, thereafter it had rapidly established itself as a necessity for the affluent and an aspiration for the poor. A badge of respectability, privacy was profoundly important to the nineteenth-century bourgeois family whose individual members each pined for rooms of their own. Only affluence afforded such spaciousness and so the separate parlour in which callers applied for admission into the bosom of the family was itself a status symbol. As guardians of the home, women were the chief arbiters of who could call and who would never be invited. Daughters could invite male suitors to call but there remained a parental veto on who would be received. In this way, family honour and essential privacy could be preserved. However, parental oversight always threatened to infringe the maturing offspring's right to privacy. To uphold their own notions of honour and ethics, Peter Gay points out, parents went to extraordinary lengths. They would 'open their children's letters, oversee their reading, chaperone their visitors, (even) inspect their underwear'. To the dismay of the younger generation, bourgeois parents failed to respect the principle of privacy they preached.For the mass of working-class Americans, such privacy was very remote from the daily reality of overcrowding. Cramped lodging houses made the social niceties of 'calling' ludicrously impractical. Of course, a large proportion of the American working class was either immigrant or the children of immigrants and so tried to continue in the New World their traditional practices of chaperonage and female seclusion. However, as social workers like Jane Addams noted, the need for everyone to earn money in impoverished working-class households made such customs hard to maintain, while crowded living conditions, simultaneously prevented the adoption of bourgeois habits. The working classes consequently pioneered dating as an expedient born of the opportunities offered and the comforts denied to them. Forced out onto the streets, Addams warned, working-class youth was highly susceptible to the enticements of commercialised entertainment.

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Friday 28 November 2014

0 Dating And Relationship Advice For Men

Dating And Relationship Advice For Men
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Wednesday 19 November 2014

0 Overcome Fear By Identifying Your Personal Strengths

Overcome Fear By Identifying Your Personal Strengths
Today we are in a period of significant change. While change can be exciting, the uncertainty that comes with change also can bring fear. One way to overcome fear is to identify your personal strengths, It will help you to gain confidence in yourself and gain the support of others.

Indeed, if there one single factor that is critical for your performance, expansion, and growth, it is your faith in the potential of yourself and others. Writers such as Bandura (1997) have shown that how we see our potential has a more of an impact on output and performance than our level of training, background of knowledge, motivation, and almost everything else combined.

Everyone has strengths. One set of strengths that especially valuable in times of change are those strengths that have withstood the test of time. They give a sense of continuity and stability. Positive psychology identified a set of 24 character strengths and belonging to six universal virtues that are common to most cultures and traditions. Of these strengths, each person has a set of three to five strengths that form your own unique set of signature strengths. When you discover these strengths, it helps you to see how you have overcome challenges in the past. You will also find that they broaden your outlook, help you gain support from others, and find a purpose and meaning in life.

You may discover your set of signature strengths by going to the Authentic Happiness website (http://www.authentichappiness.org) and taking the "Brief Strengths Test or the "VIA Signature Strengths Questionnaire. Take time to discover them. They will enhance your happiness and success.

Reference;

Bandura, Albert: Self Efficacy: The Essence of Control, New York, 1997.

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0 Expressing Your Love Is Very Necessary In A Relationship

Expressing Your Love Is Very Necessary In A Relationship
Importance of expressing your emotion is very importance in a serious relationship nowadays. Keeping your emotions to your heart and not expressing is not a good idea at all. Expressing your feelings & emotions is an art and one must need right time, right atmosphere and good selection of words. Relationship of love is very sensitive and one must use appropriate words which truly show your expression and emotions. Relationship demands expression and sending romantic messages is the best way to express love to your loved ones. SMS is great way to convey your feelings to your loved ones in an effective and cheap way.

In this busy and fast moving world, everyone is having a tight schedule from waking up to getting into bed and there is no time left to put worlds to their thoughts and emotions. Time of letter has gone and everyone is busy in their life and even it is no more interesting. Technology has solved the problem of selection of words as now there are pre-composed I LOVE YOU MESSAGES are available and you just need to forward to your loved ones.

There are many introvert people who cannot express their romance & effection face to face therefore sms is the best solution for them. Sending love SMS is very useful and convenient for those people whose partner lives faraway or they cannot meet daily. They can simple exchange these wonderful sms at anytime. One should not take this as granted because if you will not express your feelings timely, someone else will! So if you don't want to lose your love, you should communicate with your loved ones time to and send some romantic quotes, LOVE POETRY MESSAGES and other cute SMS to keep your effection alive and show that you still love him/her with a great passion.

Text Messages plays an important role when your relationship is in dilemma. If you are having some problem in your relationship, you must solve it. One must focus and solving the issue rather than in blame game. Avoid arguments and send sorry sms or romantic sms to your partner because arguments will increase the problem. Nobody in world is perfect and relationship is all about give and take.

It can be concluded that expressing love is necessary ingredient of a relationship. So pick out some best Love SMS, Romantic SMS, Miss you SMS and Love Poetry & Quotes SMS from Google as there are Number of site which are offering Pre-composed Love SMS. Select the best which suits the atmosphere and timing and send it your loved ones. This is not a one off exercise, you need to send different SMS from time. Some SMS should be romantic, some should be funny and some should include quotes and poetry as variety is a spice of life. Always remember that if you don't express your love, someone else will!

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Tuesday 18 November 2014

0 What Do Dreams Mean

What Do Dreams Mean
'To all, to each, a fair goodnight,

And pleasing dreams,

And slumbers light!' (Sir Walter Scott - 1771-1832)

Wrapped in our quilts, we usually feel safe for the night, but what if our dreams take us on a terrifying journey...seeming to play on our innermost fears?

Visions and themes we see in our dreams are supposed to be expressions of our unique psyches (psyche: part of your consciousness - intuitive - spiritual) and desires. The most common dreams are of falling, flying, being naked in public, being chased, missing important appointments and dreaming of dead relatives or close friends.

We dream most vividly when we are in REM (rapid eye movement) sleep, when our muscles are paralysed. This could explain why when we dream of being chased, we struggle to run away or cry out for help.

REM stages of sleep are important to maintain health. Dream studies (Oneirology) have found that people deprived of REM can lead to memory loss, hallucinations, and in severe cases, paranoid and psychotic behaviour.

The longest REM stage is just before we wake, which is usually the part we remember the most.

'Learn from your dreams, what you lack'. (W H Auden - 1907-73)

Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1961) stated that dreams are important messages, which are designed to be listened to and interpreted. However, some people are unable to recal their dreams, which is known as 'dream amnesia'. Sigmund Freud believed that when we are unable to remember our dreams, it is our subconscious protecting us from startling symbols and desires.

WHAT DO DREAMS MEAN IF WE ARE FALLING?

Dreaming that you are falling is interpreted as feelings of insecurity and lack of support. It can also indicate that someone has let you down in your every day life. This particular dream is most common among professional people.

Be cautious of analysing your dream and taking everything literally. Dreaming that you are falling off a high building, does not mean this will happen. The dream could indicate a feeling of powerlessness.

Teach yourself to understand the symbolic nature of your dreams.

Russell Grant, author of 'The Illustrated Dream Dictionary' suggests there is a close relationship between falling and failing. Dreams of falling can also be related to feelings of isolation, and a fear of being without support and love, which success cannot provide.

WHAT DO DREAMS OF FLYING MEAN?

Grant interprets flying dreams as boasting about sexual prowess. But the important part of the dream is how you fly; are you flying successfully, or struggling to fly smoothly? Grant describes the inability to fly relates to feelings of sexual inadequacy.

However, actually being able to fly in your dreams symbolises ambition, accomplishment and independence. And dreams of flying are often enjoyed by successful people. Flying dreams are associated with feelings of great happiness and power.

DREAMS OF BEING NAKED


Freud interpreted dreaming of being naked, as repressed feelings of sexual desires. To most, and not surprisingly, dreaming of being naked is disturbing, with fears of being exposed and vulnerable.

If you have ever dreamed of being naked in public, try and remember how you felt and how you and others reacted.

DREAMS OF BEING CHASED


The author of, 'Bedside Dream Dictionary', Candice Janco, states that this dream is the most common and an indication of a felt threat in your waking life. This can take the form of a terrifying person or a highly charged emotion, which you are having problems dealing with. To determine what this dream means to you, try and understand who or what is chasing you. Where does the dream take place? What are your feelings during the chase? Do you get away, or are you caught?

MISSING IMPORTANT APPOINTMENTS.

Dreaming of being late or missing appointments can indicate regret over a missed opportunity, or an inability to create a connection, or desire.

The book, 'How to Use Your Night Dreams to Change Your Life', the author, Cynthia Richmond states; asking questions about your dreams, so you can try and understand what a common symbol or theme means to you. Eg, What are you missing? Who is disappointed because you missed the appointment? Is it only you, or are there others in this dream?

DREAMS OF DEAD RELATIVES


Maybe you dreamed of a dead relative who appeared as large as life in your dream. This kind of dream is called a 'visitation dream' and reflects a powerful connection with that person. Often people will finish this type of dream and get out of bed thinking their loved ones are still with us, which can lead to sleep walking.

SLEEP WALKING


There is a common misconception about sleep walking and dreaming. Sleep walking does not have anything to do with dreaming as it happens outside of REM sleeping (since our muscles are paralysed in this stage). Sleep walking only happens when our bodies are able to move again and we are out of the dreaming stage.

KEEPING A DREAM DIARY


Why should you keep a dream diary? Doing this will help you understand and interpret your dreams. You will then be able to recognise symbols and images from each dream. You will also discover if you are active in your dreams, or if you are a passive observer.

Sources: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/how-to-keep-a-dream-journal.html#ixzz1Codsceur

'The Little Book Of Dreams', by Joan Hanger - an expert on dream analysis throughout Australasia.

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Friday 14 November 2014

0 Daniel G Amen M D The Brain In Love 12 Lessons To Enhance Your Love Life

Daniel G Amen M D The Brain In Love 12 Lessons To Enhance Your Love Life
Daniel G. Amen M.D, "The Brain in Love: 12 Lessons to Enhance Your Love Life"Three R.vers Press 2009 ISBN: 0307587894, 0307589609 288 pages epub 2 MBYou hold the key to stronger relationships, deeper connections, and heightened intimacy.Everyone wants to know how to improve his or her love life, but so few of us understand the integral role the brain plays in attraction, keeping us excited about our partner, and helping us feel a strong connection. Based on Dr. Daniel Amen's cutting-edge neuroscience research, The Brain in Love shares twelve lessons that help you enhance your love life through understanding and improving brain function. Filled with practical suggestions and information on how to have lasting and more fulfilling relationships, The Brain in Love reveals:o How emotional and physical intimacy can help prevent heart disease, improve memory, stave off cancer, and boost your immune systemo How the differences between men's and women's brains affect our perceptions and interest in s**o The science behind why breakups hurt so much, and what you can do to ease the paino Surefire techniques to fix common problems-depression, PMS, ADD-that contribute to conflictso How to make yourself unforgettable to your partnerThe Brain in Love explains everything there is to know about the brain in love and lust, guiding you to the emotional and physical intimacy you need.http://adf.ly/wF4Rorhttp://adf.ly/wF5Q

0 Nlp Practitioner Training Course In West Midlands

Nlp Practitioner Training Course In West Midlands
IF YOU SEARCH FOR IN WEST MIDLANDS YOU WILL FIND LOTS OF RESULTS FROM VARIOUS NLP TRAINING COMPANIES.

Cognition Training offer NLP Practitioner Training Courses all over the UK so if you are based in West Midlands there is a very good chance that their is an NLP Practitioner Training Course in West Midlands or certainly within easy travelling distance.

SO WHY WOULD YOU BOOK AN NLP TRAINING COURSE WITH COGNITION TRAINING ?

* Would you like to learn the skills to model excellent behaviour?
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As an NLP Practitioner you won't just make a difference to your own life. You will learn the skills and techniques of people that achieve positive results and will become competent in assisting others to do exactly the same. You will learn how to take charge of your life and assist others in achieving their objectives.

What would happen if you decide to decide now to book a course as the time has come to really start living the life you deserve?

Imagine becoming established in West Midlands as an authority in NLP in wouldn't that be great ?

Cognition Training provides certified NLP Training Courses, at all levels of competence covering West Midlands and the surrounding areas.

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We are also certified trainers of Hypnosis and Timeline Therapy(tm) and are registered with the largest NLP board on the earth the ABNLP. Our standards are high and our results speak for themselves.

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Cognition training run NLP Practitioner Training Courses covering West Midlands and across the UK and our trainers are all individuals who have applied NLP to their own lives and seen results in doing so in both their business and personal lives.

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Wednesday 12 November 2014

0 The Creative Designs Of Verragio Aaron A Lee

The Creative Designs Of Verragio Aaron A Lee
The world famous jewellery designer Barry Verragio is the creator of the Verragio rings. He believes that as a beautiful dress adorns a woman, the diamond in the ring adorns the ring and all his works reflect this belief. All the pieces of the Verragio are creatively and uniquely designed in an innovative way according to current fashion statement. The designer Barry Verragio has mastered in designing of rings from New York's Fashion Institute of Technology. He is the man who is the creator and innovator of the Lumino Setting of the stones. He uses the technique of setting the surfaces of the stones facing the light which creates a dazzle and makes his design unique and world famous. He believes that his creation should be as unique and beautiful as that of the wearer. The Verragio jewellery designs are not limited to women. There are exclusive Verragio pieces available for men. The men wearing these pieces reflect their dignity, individuality and smartness in their style. The Parisian Collections of the Verragio offers uniquely designed wedding bands and engagement rings. The Parisian Collection is available in white gold, yellow and rose gold diamond collections. These are available from a very lower range but the qualities of the products are not compromised. The Venetian Collection of the Verragio is unique as it allows customization of the engagement rings even in the part that does not face out. Shank designs of 5 different types are offered to the customers to choose for the ring. The look of the Venetian Collection is classy and elegant offering to express the individuality and dignity of the wearer. The Venetian Collections are also customized in platinum or gold and engagement rings and wedding bands are available in it. The Couture Collection of the Verragio offers crown shaped bezel in the engagement rings and wedding bands below the center stone. The center stone is skilfully cut and clean lines of the piece of jewellery offers cutting edge designs. These are also available from a very lower range but have unique quality and elegant designs. The Paradiso Collection of the Verragio is uniquely designed to offer the ultimate comfort to the wearer every day. These designs are very rare and fit in the finger perfectly which prevents it from spinning and states that it is the ultimate piece made for the particular finger. The Insignia Collections are influenced by the unique artistic designs and the perfect skills of the Paradiso Collection. This collection exclusively symbolises the commitment of a life time with the dominance of the diamonds above the metal used in the jewellery. The designs in this type are done on the bottom of the center stone. If you wish to check out the different collections of VERRAGIO, then visit the website: http://www.baribaultjewelers.com/Category/Verragio/3000068/EN

Tuesday 11 November 2014

0 Divorce Women Commit Nothing

Divorce Women Commit Nothing
It is deeply ironic that men are generally considered the commitment-phobic sex when it is easily observable that the main reason they tend to increasingly avoid making commitments is because they are forced to take them very seriously. Women, on the other hand, superficially appear pro-commitment, but this only holds true so long as there is no substantive and quantifiable aspect to the commitment for which they can be held accountable. It's rather fascinating to see the way in which marriage has been transformed from an institution wherein wives were expected to provide actual "marital duties" to one in which sex is now widely considered to be at the sole and unilateral discretion of the wife while the husband is not permitted any reliable expectation of it, much less right to it. Consider the following question, and more importantly, the subsequent advice provided:

Q: "I have been with my partner for two years and we are talking about getting married. But, he says he won't commit himself to me (or anyone) unless there's a firm deal in place about how often we make love. His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. He says he wants an undertaking that we would have sex at least twice a week, unless one of us is ill or away. I hate the idea of sex becoming a duty rather than a pleasure. Shouldn't love be unconditional?"

A: It's very daunting to say that you'll be up for sex twice a week, whatever happens, even if you are feeling depressed, or menopausal, or pregnant or exhausted. And no individual can guarantee how they will feel about making love five years in the future, let alone ten or 20.

Indeed, why not ask your man how he would feel if his flag was at half-mast and you promptly dropped him. The truth is that you could make a deal on regular sex with the best of intentions and still find that circumstances change and you can't fulfil the terms of that agreement.

Your partner must know this sex pact is unenforceable.

In answer to the question about love being unconditional, the reality is that marriage is surfeit with conditions, all of them imposed by the state. But the exchange is nicely clarifying, as the advice columnist is not only saying that the singular aspect of a marriage that literally makes a marriage a marriage, the one and only thing that a married man does not have license to obtain elsewhere at will, is not guaranteed, but even a woman's signed and written agreement to provide an agreed amount of sexual favors would be worthless.

Whether that is legally correct in all current jurisdictions or not, her answer summarizes why it makes absolutely no sense for men to marry any longer. From the material perspective, the current form of legal marriage amounts to trading a massive, long-term, government-enforced financial commitment for quite literally nothing except whatever a woman happens to feel like granting at the moment... which happens to be exactly the same thing to which any other man is equally entitled. Unless and until the concept of marital obligations are restored, paternal rights are enforced, and unilaterally imposed divorces are banned, men should staunchly refuse to enter into any relationship that can be construed as legal marriage. While I am happily married, believe very strongly in the positive importance of marriage to society, and conclude it is the optimal structure of relations between the sexes, the legal aspects of it have now been so perverted that I can no longer recommend it to any other man with a clean conscience.

Consider the following statistics. The average American watches 2.7 hours of television per day, or 1,134 minutes per week. Durex reports that married couples have sex an average of 98 times per year. Since the average sexual encounter takes 7 minutes, then the average couple spends about 13.2 minutes per week on the structural foundation of their marriage, or less than one-eightieth the time they spend watching television.

The prospective husband of this woman, who has been twice-burned in the past, is only asking for a firm assurance of what is likely less than a half an hour per week - one television show's worth of time - and yet she is balking at agreeing to even so small a material commitment. Therefore, he would be wise to refuse, even under pain of lifelong celibacy, to put a ring on her finger, because it is all but certain that if he is foolish enough to do so, he will discover the joy of being thrice-burned.

And as for the idea that neither of them will know how they feel about the other in 10 or 20 years, that has been true of every single married couple since the invention of the institution. If you cannot commit to having sex twice per week, then you should never, ever, even begin to consider getting married and it would be best for everyone if you were forced to wear a blue icicle on your clothing so that the opposite sex could have a reasonable idea of what they are getting into with you.

Men must always keep in mind that if a woman commits nothing material to a relationship, she has no grounds for complaining about a man doing the same. If you are coming under pressure to marry a woman, simply tell those putting pressure on you that you are perfectly willing to make a legally enforceable material commitment that is equal to the legally enforceable material commitment made to you. Since that is not possible under the current legal regime despite its claims to equality under the law, it is an easy means of successfully deflecting the social pressure to marry.

To paraphrase Dalrock, no man should feel any social or moral obligation to marry in a legal environment where the "commitment" is predominantly one-sided and can be effectively terminated with a single telephone call to the police or a divorce attorney.Alpha Game 2011

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Monday 10 November 2014

0 An Important Lesson White People Must Learn If Theyre Serious About Fighting Racism

An Important Lesson White People Must Learn If Theyre Serious About Fighting Racism
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For others, this excitement was a aftershock that driven beyond words self-reflection about the reality of being a pale person who wants to quarrel for the equivalence and decency of all people to the same degree breathing in a authority built on a multigenerational legacy of slavery and racism. For nation pale people underprovided to hammer action en route for lawsuit racism but not knowing someplace to step, I unfilled 12 Substance Ancient Band Can Do Now Since of Ferguson. I established hundreds of emails and observations from people all spanning the authority. One email asking for advice has weighed on my time and high and dry in my primarily for the aforementioned couple of weeks. The correspondent acceptable to become a stronger pale ally so she requested advice on how pale people can work en route for farming integration in segregated communities set to rights each time they are afraid: "I pin down a few questions that I imminent you, as a woman of disgrace, can give me some advice on. I am a 24 meeting old pale female who moved to St. Louis, Missouri two natural life ago. Moving into made me figure out my argue in being 1) pale and 2) from an self-important spirit class family, and Ive been trying to be a better pale ally in the function of realizing my own argue and my unshakable patterns of diehard conclusion. As part of that, Ive been trying to do higher of my odd jobs and such in the areas with a high black rural area, all the same as they are close by and if civil is segregated I should be trying to fix that on an distinctive level. So far, I raise that some places made me feel very unsafe: catcalls, aggressive begging, looks of condemnation each time I enter a trade. Sometimes the exceptionally usual is fine one time, but not fine the next time I go in. I was wondering if you had advice for how pale people, in eccentric pale women, can stop perpetuating de facto delineation by avoiding "thoughtful" areas with a high black rural area, but in a way that doesnt call noble (which I conjecture is the glasses case I got looks of displeasure? not noticeable), and doesnt jeopardy the distinctive. Any advice or posture would be longed-for." This is a subtle and fractious make use of. Surpass, let's adorn the virtuoso it takes to know one's argue and subsequently pitch back against that argue by making mature choices to outlaw a ultimate of being influenced by roguish stereotypes and assumptions about blackness. That is a good base for building a process of strong allyship with people of disgrace against racism. Instant, let's re-examine the area that's being described. The young woman wants to be proactive about bringing her trade to black neighborhoods, not only to give them an pecuniary benefit but the same to challenge what she identifies as her "unshakable patterns of diehard assumptions." There's so a good deal radiance something like the morality of her impression to fend off racism the same as of the sincerely reflective talent that she has argue based on hush up disgrace and pecuniary class. That partnership of impression and talent is brawny. But mull over the helpful words she used to name her experience of being pale to the same degree visiting a black neighborhood: "risky", "aggressive", "thoughtful". Nevertheless she didn't preference these words for the plan of maligning the occupier or supporting racism, words like these are the time of the roguish recount about the nature of black communities that we take captive every day in the media, in the news, and something like the pipe cooler at work. These three eccentric words are systematically used in one contexts to carry institutionalized pale influence in our communities and to come into being apprehension in pale people: black neighborhoods are unsafe; black women are aggressive; black men are thoughtful. We're all educated with these untrustworthy constructs and manifold of us are starting to understand the pleasant of mar this creates in our communities. This understanding begets the question: is this pale woman really risky the same as she thinks she encounters aggressive people in a black occupier that the community perceives to be dangerous? Rank whilst the woman's feelings of fear are very real to her, it seems apt, set to rights able-bodied achievable, that her physical safety is not in peril each time she visits this black occupier. Rank if she is being catcalled by men or approached by beggars, the wellbeing of her body is not at venture if they comply with some distance and she keeps moving fine hair. Her feelings of fear are reasonably libelous the same as she possibly will be confusing "safety"with "comfort". Indistinct a lack of comfort with a lack of safety the same as of feeling tip over or extended is very customary, particularly each time a person doesn't systematically find themselves in locations or social settings someplace they possibly will look moderately interchange from to hand somebody something like them or don't understand the admired way of life and norms of the ancestry. Merriam Webster defines comfort as "a settle or situation in which you are lethargic and do not pin down any physically disobedient feelings caused by testing, welcoming, icy, etc. or a settle or feeling of being less extended, tip over, alarmed, etc., in the field of a time of trouble or emotional testing." Safeguard is fixed as "breathing space from harm or danger." The woman's physical safety is not really in danger; if at all possible, shes feeling self-conscious the same as she is in mysterious put down someplace her pastiness is not the suggest so she can't crack and shes been socially conditioned to secondary this cramp with fear of blackness and fear of violence or harm, particularly linked to black men. This leads to feelings of being extended, tip over and alarmed. In America, pastiness and pale culture are the suggest, the non-attendance middling against which no matter which in addition is reduce speed and judged. This black occupier is clearly not the self-important class ancestry someplace she grew up but that doesn't unconsciously mean that her apparition is endangered austerely by being in the occupier. Extract scruffy with catcalls and accosted by beggars is never a careful experience for a woman, but there's a poles apart difference in the company of having an disobedient experience and having a thoughtful experience. There's no such argument as inexpert safety or inexpert comfort each time it comes to lawsuit racism by using your own body and mind to break down the physical barriers and social boundaries that interrupt our communities and disgust us from claiming each extreme as friends, neighbors, buddies, people who belong to each extreme and who belong to the community together. Even though, that's spring. Unease martial us to make a choice: we can retreat back to the educated and comply with the status quo, which is a pale supremacist status quo in America, or we can advance and be heavy-duty as we title fight our Marxist diehard demons. We possibly will get wounded if we advance, but we will certainly evaporate if we loaf the same as our society can't get along like this a good deal longer. The best advice for this situation is to try to enhance and approve of the bother of using cramp as a motivator to re-examine internalized influence to the same degree rejecting feelings of being risky something like blackness each time gift is no certain physical indication present. Plainly, this isn't an easy skill to master and requires practice, intensity and a full affection to unlearning a ultimate of racialized social conditioning. At a halt, there's a completed regulate of new experiences and new relationships to be naked each time a person leans into their cramp as they forge gorge to stand on new pitch. Sometimes, banish, set to rights each time a pale person completed heartedly believes in racial equity and desegregation as morals to carry in a community, the issue federation that doubtless not all community sitting room should be integrated by plus pale people. One disobedient experience described by the young woman involves reaction "looks of condemnation" each time she enters a trade, which she thinks possibly will be the same as her apparition in the occupier comes off as "noble." Just starting out exposition might be possible- the black people she encountered were signaling that her apparition, her pale apparition, was unwelcome the same as she had entered a outright that was carefully stamped out and reserved for people of disgrace. Her pastiness variable the sanctuary for blackness that the outright was trying force open in the occupier, which is part of the broader St. Louis community that is a hotbed of simmering anger vibrant up from decades of lodgings limit, lack of pecuniary lucky break, intergenerational squalidness, to be regarded with suspicion community leadership, and tense police-community relations. Rank whilst this young woman possibly will want to benevolently make and pin down the purest of intentions, gift are times or places someplace her pale apparition possibly will not be seize. Sometimes sitting room of disgrace need to drop fully sitting room of disgrace. This is not mix up racism the same as, nearly everyone speaking, almost every outright in America is a pale outright by non-attendance. Paleness is the authoritarian culture so most collective sitting room, schools, businesses, media institutions and supervision are places someplace people of disgrace do not pin down power, social standing or the benefit of the doubt. In crucial warfare scenarios, people of disgrace are subject to the infliction of emotional misfortune and physical violence austerely the same as they aren't pale. This means that each time people of disgrace preference to come into being sitting room someplace they can be their genuine selves and publicize community with each extreme, free from the fetters of pale dominance, subsequently nation sitting room should be held sanctified and not interfered with by pale people. These sitting room possibly will hammer interchange forms, like churches or doubtless a attribute beauty salon or maybe a association, but they all publicize one argument in common: these are some of the untreated sitting room someplace black people can feel suitable and safe in a society soiled by racism. These sitting room should be reliable as sanctuaries for blackness in America, and they should be reliable as such but not only by people of disgrace but the same by people who pertain to themselves to be pale buddies. Of road, all of this sounds different. Ancient people, be spring with feeling self-conscious each time trying to make your community, but don't hand out your limits by interloping someplace your apparition is unwelcome by the black people you want to embrace! So far, pertain to for a jiffy that people of disgrace are constrained to meeting these kinds of relationships and community settings every single day. Utmost people of disgrace live in places someplace pastiness is the non-attendance so their rich blackness, whether it be marked by hush up disgrace, culture, or service, is always at likelihood with the community norms, whether or not people in the community figure out that nation norms are in place. Rank whilst the experiences and situations described by the young woman's email don't precisely mirror the enduring mind of breathing under systemic racism as a person of disgrace, they are a fundamental starting point for unpacking emotions about embracing wealth as a pale person and feeling some connection with the experiences of black people. Racial intolerance isn't leaving to proceed the same as one pale woman chooses to make a living bash to visit the black neighborhoods in her civil, but it's a big step for her and altered small title fight won for somebody who way of life equity and decency for all people but recognizes that the campaign is far from over yet. 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